Being lonely.

One of my friend just text me that she is feeling lonely today and gave me the thought to write this piece by taking a pause to think why do we feel lonely in life? Being in self or missing someone between others or looking to be with some one for togetherness, insecurity, fear, and unsolicited solitude. Or it’s just a temporary pause we go in search of recognizing self in our inner self. The quest is limitless to find reasons for our loneliness which can be driven by our thinking, happening, and upbringing in different surroundings. This thought creates dilemma in my mind to figure out is being lonely is good or bad to human health, in ancient time the saints, Sufis, and kings went into their isolation to meditate and discover enlightenment, the solitary confinement that gave them power to control over their will mentions loneliness  as  strength against evil to meditate and master our senses; the other side of the story when I learn about the experiences of loneliness in empathy with Dr. Nelson Mandela and Aung Sui Kyi who  spent their considerable amount life in imprisonment of loneliness may put loneliness as curse against freedom. What I am endeavoring is here not to find a contradiction between the two sides   but what is the actual reason to feel lonely or what is loneliness? Some of us are better at dealing loneliness than other people than others for them loneliness is cutting them across society; for others loneliness is a curse  a shadow that follows them all the time, that rears its ugly head at every human contact, that surrounds them in their waking and in their dreams.

These feeling started pricking me I am lonely unless I wish to make my loneliness meet companionship; may it be joy, sadness or something unspoken. I wish to be myself; Loneliness is part of human life at the end of the day we all are alone. Do we ever truly introspect what it is to be being in self and experience and remember things you have gone by the day to recall the joys and happiness, your pains and distress absolutely we can talk to people about how we feel, we can draw our boundless imagination, pictures, we can play music, but this entire effort to communicate ultimately leaves something behind. We cannot always get our feelings, ideas or experiences across exactly. There is a painful reality that ultimately we are alone in our inner selves and ultimately alone. 

Loneliness is a universal observable fact it exist in every human soul at some time in every culture, every class, every age, and at all times in human history. It is inevitable and has been expressed throughout the ages in music, literature and art. To experience loneliness is to cut oneself from society to distinguish how fundamentally separated from each other, fated to speak and yet never fully understood. Not only is loneliness so pervasive, but it has been associated with a variety of different emotions.  People who feel lonely describe it as painful, and it is associated very strongly with feelings of depression, suicide, low self-esteem and aggression.  Being lonely for too long may not be a good thing.  And while we suffer a monadic existence, we are social animals, needing each other, to bond, to connect, to love.  It is the paradox of human existence to seek to fill a need that can never be satisfied, to fill the vortex of loneliness in our lives.

So what is loneliness?  Is it a feeling? A condition? For different people, it means different things.  It is hard to describe exactly what it is, or how come we feel this way.  Perhaps a better question is "what is loneliness for you?"  being lonely is not absolutely good may be it is not perfectly bad too.