Relationships at brink.

Relationships that reflect your identity with others and your own self to be in association to share things in living your way are in the transition through the web of  co-operation and support in the spectrum of bonding the nuances in relationships are turning to be at brink, nuclear and shadowed .

Today how much do we care for our relationships in our busy chores of lives?  we watch that  our relationship and priorities are in a new move into references of friendships, affiliate and live in concepts giving the new definition to the meaning of relationships; the young generation are more paranoid in indulging into obligations of relationship [S] other way they wish to program their ambitions to have tryst with their career to find their future than be obligated to maintain relations with one another is secondary to their primary objective of career, work, and leisure paving to manage self than maintain associations with others.

This is the growing phenomenon that is finding virtual gap between the market driven lifestyle and home grown life values such as the MacDonald burger with coke are quick meal menu compare to home platter of food that is more time consuming and out of health concerns. However the laws of relationships are changing as now the world is shrunk to apps and our lives are on the mercy of electronic devices to transmit shocking, bad, good news travel on twitter wings, face book scraps, and short messaging service to reach people than take initiative to record their own importance in people lives at their best or sad occasions of life.

The relationship between the value of money and value to acquire it in plenty has expanded amongst young entrepreneurs to a street vendor are in a marathon to gather wealth in high numbers; though the money value is costing same People are running for cash to comfort by underestimating their present. Nevertheless in this ambitious world there are no free lunches and lives are getting more attracted with market superficiality. We cannot deny the grim reality about the breaking away of relationships under the greed for possession value to acquire more than needed, the values are replaced with market mechanism principles and impact of global culture which is making the life scenario blur.

The need is to redefine our familial values which need to change and match the revolving times of earth and accommodate emotional delinquency in our culture of living particularly with our young ones who needs space and liberty for their life to chose and design their way of living, there is an important need to evolve a consensus than confrontation through understanding of each other feelings.

We cannot blame one factor for this erosion of relationships amidst the family, the generation gap with the media maneuvers and presence of an alter ego culture contesting with our ingenuity and also education taking a back seat in tailoring subjects to imbibe values of relationship to rejoice and trust in each other and together.

The days are increasingly becoming heated with the happy life suffering in the agony of insecurity, isolation and emotional unavailability of our own self with our trusted one and members of family going far than coming to together in a bond with one another, the economic development of life has taken away the emotional decency of our lives living us with fears of losing and missing in the race. we are putting at stake our relationships which are more valuable and lasting, we long and last for temperance than permanence of joy for being one with another.

Le Festivals.

India the land of festivals and multiculturalism were every season starts with festival and ends with festival to keep people in spirits of joy and merriment in family, work and where ever they are cruising the festival time is following them. No matter what ever their problems, how much people are busy and who is responsible for the crisis in economy or government in country or what’s going in the world, India in summer, monsoon or spring is blue in series of festivities celebrating unity in diversity eating praying and loving each other in spirit of ecstasy.

Any person coming from out of soil to India may feel amazed to reckon these spirits of India who put their worries in basket and rock and roll in festivals of delight irrespective of their faith they rejoice in camaraderie and complement each other in celebrating to be happy in customary festivals with national days they don’t forget it to mark important to keep themselves content and keep going with family, friends, and along with everyone echoing the slogans of joy.

The history of India is no less in inspiration to the present in the festivals and entertainment that has been traveling the voyage from aristocratic kings to nawabs and their royal families who were particular about heralding these festival significance from their court to common man, they gave special emphasis for music on these festivals to fun, they  encourage music and also dance as special part for some of these festivals in their reign and thus develops various art forms particularly the noteworthy musical genres in different parts in India that travel from India to abroad. This love for music led to invention of to many indigenous musical instruments and some indianization of western instruments in Indian symphony.

The Indian festivals cannot be complete without mentioning the special delicacies of Indian food at festival time that speaks about the festival and importance of place, you find number of varieties of dishes and sweets that seldom you get anywhere in the world, the multi cuisine which is experimented in Indian kitchens are no match to the kitchens of world with special love for sweets more than food keeping your Indian mouth watering to taste the toast.

The one specialty about festivals in India they come with the significance that also teach its followers a lesson to adopt in their way of life that keep them motivate in life to face it with strong audacity against its short comings and struggle resulting into success to celebrate the essence of oneness and binds one with another. Though enriched with cultural heritage it has welcome and accommodated the exterior culture and its nuances in India were they have assimilated their ingenuity into Indian identity that is a special feature of Indians and India.

The multi cultural land has given the world spiritual solace to find joy and harmony in this land, it has got many inherit secrets of nature to experience here. It has a history of healing in ayurved, it has a present of living in festivities, and it has a future in doing the unbelievable endeavors’ which makes it a distinct place in the world.

There cannot be an end to express about the Indian spirit that can get twisted, thwarted, but cannot hold on. it keeps going on you’ll find at one or the other  countryside Indian homes lit up and Indian dancing in their musical notes and  enjoying themselves in one or the other occasion perhaps it is rare gift of God to India that happiness is wrapped in festivals that keep Indians moving  among others in the world.

Picture words.

It is very easy to talk but difficult to unearth the secret behind the process of communication, a network that constantly get into process of interchange and exchange leading to frame the messages and receiving the communication that has come a long journey in its presence to put words into picture.

The human beings started to communicate from science of codes to gestures, words, phonetics, and accent to speak their language in first letter on earth as we born as babies crying with yaannnnnn... and then discovering a unique voice later trying to speak Ma, mama and Pa papa marching to conquer words and articulate to echo of your needs before the elders. As you grow you seldom give importance to your communication smartness or style and you simply dwell in the family culture and communicate in your surrounding and start reflecting yourself in chosen language in the same fashion.

Let us understand why communication is extremely vital to our life. Communication is a process through which we express our consent, dissent, solidarity, or regret to convey our dreams, ambitions, desires or accept demands designing our daily chores. We communicate to recognize our presence in the midst of others, as we care in mixing of our words and emotions to convey our purpose adding tag of etiquettes in our messages to one another. The communication style differs but the objective is to attain a result, answer a reply or anticipate a response for what we network words pro others.

Imagine a boyfriend inviting her girlfriend for a dinner how he will air his tone for accomplishing the purpose absolutely in a polite, soft, humble, and much pleasing sense to make the invitation honored.

Now in an another situation a wife mentioning her resent to husband for not picking her call  and giving gesture of avoidance, she begins in more solemnity with pinch of salt words to understand her importance in life that he need to realize his mistake and accept that he may be on the side of fault. There cannot be bail without an unconditional apology; a perfect use of blending the words and art of communication can be seen here to achieve the purpose to show anguish, superiority and reprieve from wife to husband.

In the same way we can quote many styles of communication that floats in waves transmitting emotions of life to world, in the above illustrations the two characters trying to show predominantly their importance to each other for attracting each others’ attention by articulating that they mean a lot to each other. However the communication evolving in the shape of language through words, gestures, and other inter related channel are basically the voice of heart. This is spoken, transmitted or received irrespective of barriers, the voice of heart is universal and need to be channeled properly as the disturbances can cause the communication gap and deviate the context and send wrong signals against what it has been originally intended to send the message at the other end.

The various languages more over wrap into voice of heart which are scripted or extempore to converse, to reply, to listen, for effective results; the one key element for good communication is to develop good listening skills, to listen is an important worth that can add value to your voice skills and help to channelize in perfect message.

The voice of heart can be more purposeful in communication through voracious reading of successful literature to figure out what you are looking to convey and develop your pool of words to fill the gap that will became a sound ambassador of your  own self proclaimed testimony in vehicle of language. The other feature is the non-verbal gestures that take your expression into expansion complimenting horizons through knowing value to fix your articulations above others.

The premise of Communication is a erudite phenomenon that cross the frontiers of art and science and can be more verbal, non verbal and in a loose plank a total blank out of fine or finest not to speak or listen but to only experience such as explore beyond words, gesture the voice of heart recognize its own self in selfless sagacity of nature to rejoice the communique in its own entirety.

Testing Time.

The terror events around the globe will make you recall that an old proverb says ‘everyone on earth has to taste death’. Which is certain but the growing irrationality in the world is now juxtaposed with the old proverb that the taste of life isn’t safe and the whole world is sitting on peril of explosion in the name of terror that can seize many lives in a single stroke to send long lasting grief to near and dear in the family. Anyone will feel sad to watch their surrounding were humanity is dying the machine death as a consequence of advancement.

This reminds me about the old time which was far very good as narrated by elders in stories that filled with love, innocence, share and care including empathy for family and neighbor. As the change in mad rush to kill one against the other person with growing greed, animosity, and illogicality between humans are on rampant. These adding to the factors landing ourselves into compartments of caste, class and geographic limitations, perhaps our ancestor lived a much appreciated life in their age to give us an illustration to learn and appreciate much beautiful things of life that blossomed on us nevertheless in the present scenario we lost the message of our ancestor to understand the universal principle that humanity and harmony are two faces of one coin.

Today we have failed to follow the foot prints of our ancestors in cherishing humanity and overtook them in the advancement in science and technology that has expanded vulnerability leading to shrinking of culture and corruption of values among our social fabric and human life that is going under crisis into ecstasy of disharmony and fear which will only cause great loss if this horrific practice of terror is not stopped.

Human advancement has taken plenty of years to come to this civilization from the pre stone age to post computer era. We have advance in every discipline in growth to face every challenge and triumphant each opportunity but we cannot take the superiority in using these ultra developments in the name of right means for wrong ends. The need is to maneuver our inventions for the outcome of sustainability to reproduce the growth story by emphasizing and inputting our plans into actions for the generation next to gift a life with pride, dignity and harmony to cherish than regret our endeavors’.

This is not a philosophical quest to institutionalize harmony with principle to live and let others live but a demanding necessity between the parts of world that cannot remain in isolation and has to adhere to the universal shared values, mutual respect and global interdependence to take pleasure in valuing our resources and sharing it for the growth of others than culling the same with existing resources against the growth of self.

As this the fundamental call is to  accept the need for co-operation to defeat persistent and forthcoming challenges to empower and expand peace through purposeful efforts, the human inventions that were discovered to rescue humanity are now acting as reprisal against us through arsenal discoveries like guns, explosives, and terror mechanisms. It is we have to draw the line and gather ourselves with bold steps and bounded commitment to overcome the testing time of terror travesties. 

The human advancement today is in dire need for help and support to convert its use to upgrade into the positive empowerment to protect and preserve humanity and harmony nonetheless the trends and inclinations has to be change or else the prophetic reality will leave scourge memories for history to repent this civilization as part of it. 

The Lost Joy.

As a kid I always wish to grow in life because the childhood was so disciplined to run and manage schedules as everything was framed in time machine. The meticulous inspiration of my mother who used to make me run to have tryst with happiness that sometime seems to be so weird for the tiny toddler like me to bunk and escape to some fairy land but today I am grown but I equally miss some of those moments which are disappeared and lost from my life my joy.

The school days that were so hectic when you need to be on your toes and find reasons or make excuses to miss the school for your favorite sport match, movie or going outside with parents. The happiness of not going to school and half day school on Saturday with next day Sunday as a complete holiday used to make feel thrill to await anxiously every Saturday to come sooner than later nevertheless I miss today the difference between days as the days still passed in same fashion, same Saturday coupled with Sunday making great weekend but life has moved ahead and we need to plan for the days to come may be many Saturdays and more Sundays. 

The unconditional love that everyone experience in childhood is priceless showering from all sides on to them particularly my enthusiasm was not much in going to school but getting new uniforms for me with new boots, new belt, and new tie and fountain pens. The first day of school doing gossip with friends, about uniforms, what you did in holidays and trying to impress your crush in class, sharing with friends name stickers for cover book, playing bet jolly games. There are some unique memories we all possess from our school days, I particularly cannot forget going school in different mode of transport like in Tanga (horse Chariot), Rickshaw, bus and with Papa sitting in front of vehicle and sometimes taking lifts before much yearned and appealed gift of joy on my birthday arrives at home my own stylish bicycle taking me high in spirits with its ride on roads.

This is not much but the more fun was in sharing friend’s lunchbox, keeping little but large pocket money counting and recounting and spending it one go in intervals with keeping a high credit bill with ice cream vendor and filing appeals to  parents to increase the pocket money for the much awaited funfair day in schools to spend all money in different stalls of foods and games; I also cannot forget the tedious morning assembly for which I get purposely late and skipping to only stand in late comers queue and pay additional fine to get pardon. Please forgive me god for giving naughty and untrue excuses to evade the fine.

The overwhelming wish at school before the statue of Jesus to do the miracle for home work to get done by itself automatically and let me find a Rs 500 currency note on road. I still look on ground to find myself lucky but the money is not found on ground or trees. The dedicated group studies with pressuring the group leader to be lenient against its own group members, copying the math’s answers from friend notebook and during exams studying less praying hard for god to get pass. what were those days that flew so fast and fabulous.

The life was so simple that I used to get happy for achieving satisfactory marks, doing little things of joy and enjoying every moment, neither there was so fierce competition like now, nor rapid increase in materialism. The surmount pressure from parents has robbed the essence of childhood from kids. Yet the children today are so sharp that I was not in my age they do so many activities like computing, gaming, swimming; and so on but they miss to have tryst with their childhood that is now networked into task making resulting as task manager especially the concept of education is synchronized with so many extracurricular activities and getting expandable like balloon unknowing what it’s going bring next?

I feel happy that I am saved from this intensity of chasing merit in numbers over knowledge nevertheless I still today miss the tanga’s that used to pick and drop me to home with its horse footsteps creating Rhythm of sounds on roads, I miss the rickshaw that give me feeling the sky is chasing me, I miss my bicycle which was my proud possession, I profoundly miss the tree shade area where I and my friends used to have lunch which is now replaced into a auditorium complex,

Now the things have drastically changed everywhere my friends got dispersed away in their busy lives, keyboard have replaced pens and one by one I lost joy of my life that made me older and alone to only recall the nostalgia in enchanting memories.

I hope the child hood joy could be brought back or hold in stagnancy to cherish all the good, ugly, and naughty things I dreamt and did in school days that used to bring so much fun without any worries and responsibilities perhaps now every those things have fallen behind to remember and laugh on my endeavors that I was no less than like a joker.

Black Day.

Every year the day makes it appearance I feel anguished as the sad day of September 9/11 is the most blackest day in the history of civilization to turn into be the cause of millions of death, injuries and misery around particularly for those who has no reason to receive what was bestowed on them; my heart goes to the victims of attack and post operation by USA in war on terror that virtually took the toll of innumerable lives in Afghanistan, Pakistan, and Iraq in the name of justice perhaps the retaliation was unjust in its velocity; it was no one fortune to have grief as the part of their lives particularly the innocent children who lost their parents, mothers their son, and families their member that amounted in a breakthrough of a family and more than that catastrophe of harmony.

As I pay my condolences to the victims on this inauspicious anniversary, I will never forget this day in my life time to witness the biggest conspired havoc  on humanity by the group of people in the name of ‘ideology’ that whatever matters to them. No religion preached violence of their own brethren whoever are we, wherever are we, however are we the fundamental bond between us is we are beautiful creation of god we all are humans and we should learn to live in harmony; the principle of let live and others live should became the hallmark principle of humanity than humanity itself becoming enemy for the extinction of its own race.

There cannot be no human or divine support for the alleged incident of September 9/11 but it should not be a precedent of might proving that their will is right that is also against the principle of justice and values. The post9/11 attack by Bush regime in Iraq is no less than war crime on civilians who got caught between a nation that was hurt and injured and in a spirit of revenge against not only the perpetrators but the whole community, the people practicing the faith of Islam were in taken shock and despair against the attack putting their morality and identity into downgrade and discrimination that became into a principle with tolerance in form of condemnation, racial profiling, and attacks. The message was clear an eye for an eye but the attackers failed to give the thought that their maneuver to take revenge cannot end but fuel the response in the name of counter reprisal that brought peace in keos. 

This persistent wish for action and reaction has resulted into ‘violence’ overtaking peace and spreading around the world that substituted harmony into hatredness particularly Islam becoming the causality for no reason against its teachings and its practices. The prejudices against Islam and the western world created a gulf and suddenly the scholars, intelligentsia including the media that were till yesterday least bothered to know about Islam started a negative campaign for the maligned attack that was not only against one nation but against its own community.

The whole world went into fear of Islam phobia and fierce attack against Muslims and the Muslims and Christians became eye of storm for each other putting a situation of distress in lives of world, the disadvantage holds on the side of the Muslim civil society who fail to prove in explaining the meaning of Islam before west turn prejudice to the peace loving religion perhaps the powerful might has shadowed the good qualities of Islam and projected a painted Image of religion which is not exactly what it is shown however the author believes religion cannot be used as symbols for proving one authority against other and Islam and its teachings were doctored and used to tame victory, Islam categorically preaches in submission of will to God, it is pre dominantly peace loving religion and its teachings ask to defend herself against the injustice and ‘overcome its weakness into strengths’. (Jihad) than inflict violence in the name of justice, ideology or terror unjustified.

It is still today an unknown fact why those groups in the name of Al-Qaeda inflicted attack on World trade centre or why the terror war begun and why only against USA? As in the present of my life it may not be able to discover an answer to these questions that has no justification; yet, we all know the whole global world is sitting on nuclear volcano that can end the entire humanity; History may have to be patient to find answers that may be there wasn’t any cause or a superficial cause that led into horrors of demon with a scourge on humanity.

The one message I convey to myself in prayer whenever I come across this day every year and start recollecting the haunted memories of September 9/11. God please you carved this earth so beautifully and protect it peacefully before the hollow minded world destroys it purposefully.

Agony.

The Scary moment of life when I thought life will live me one day in the arms of death this is not a fiction thought but a reality that everyone comes across one day or other but what made me to think this inauspicious thought is as I was passing by a small colony against a house were chairs laid down and people gather in quite standing assembly to mourn someone sad demise and high velocity of sounds of cry coming from the house for their loved once dear who departed. This made me think how life is so unexpected the person who passed away may have been never thought till yesterday that the next day sunrise bring a great grief to his family with his existence on earth coming to an end. 

May be  the bereavement family was in joy till the last evening but today the joy in the family has taken the place of sorrow and everlasting missing of someone with whom he/she lived, Love, care, share, fought, enjoyed with plenty of moments. I equally feel sad writing this piece but I always believe in expressing my thoughts may be it is one form  to put across my agony, as  we human beings are blessed on this earth  a good span of life to make it beautiful, to live it large and spend ourselves in entirety through education, enlightenment, and empowerment. we move our baby steps into marking our footprints in pages of history, we maneuver family and contribute our surrounding by our knowledge, relationship, wealth, and philanthropy etc. the bonding of a person or woman from pair to family is priceless just not to only perform their mundane needs but to mainly plan save, spend, and strategize everything to deliver their responsibility and remembered by participating in making members happy into a happy family.

It is so heart breaking we live life in such a alchemy, as we are never going to realize that the certain truth is we all are going to one day die. We make so busy in the domestication of our world perhaps the intertwining emotions of joy, pain, pleasure and anger with our near and dear once makes us accustomed to each other nature for his/her presence in family we are far from the reality and one sudden day his/her missing presence live behind their memories and tears to introspect, regret, and feel helpless agony why we lost our loved once.?

This is the parody of Gods will who has created human life and filled in them everything in form of emotions to experience but one thing he refrained to add to keep two people together forever in each other bond,  may be this is his art of godlikeness’; as  the relationship of body and soul is just a contract to the ageing of one life is only a sign of growing body and maturing soul the end brings not the end of life but the breakthrough of soul from body, the body get deceased and the soul reached to the source from where it started.

We feel it hard to believe that we came to this world empty handed and will depart from this land empty handed forgiving our journey we chase for everything that is unreal and forget the real purpose why we are on this earth may be not for only amassing resources out of our greed and acting to acquire the whole world that was never our inheritance neither be anyone can claim proprietorship on it. We give little heed to live our life and more concentration in planning and bringing luxurious to life. The magnificence of love is replaced with illusionistic pleasure, materialism, and ego without realizing the life is on the mercy of divine.

It pains a lot to everyone including me to think of a scary moment that one day your loved one is not with you or you are not with them to recognize the essence of oneness with your loved once. However this is an acid test which God will take from everyone, brave are those fortunate people who can handle this situation with great audacity. However one needs to analyze in their lives before the scary thought germinates to harbinger our life to compliment with love and good deeds.

The agony is going to come to you and me but if you don’t wish to envisage it than herald respect, love, prayers and share happiness among your loved once and for your true self asking to god bless you in his test and bring out of this scary moment of grief.

I feel sad to communicate this anguish against the sad demise nonetheless I pray may god bless everyone with his clemency to come out of this agony.